In the past I just thought that being an architect, a designer was a wonderful and easy job. You have an idea, you go to bed, dream during the night and wake up with the best idea ever. Not! It’s often a job as hard (or harder) than any other job.
I noticed during the years that several audio designers were people that originally had another job. But often a job in which they also had to be very accurate. So accurate they could make other people crazy. Same could often be said also from some of the most extreme high end audio customers.
Think of dentists, dental technicians, architects, often motorcyclists. Not to forget teachers. Also quite a few doctors, although mainly “almost” doctors. All people that are extremely demanding, probably extremely precise.
They are the same if they go designing high end equipment, they are the same if they go enjoying high end audio as their hobby. They are searching for the holy grail of audio perfection. Easy? Not at all. Not for themselves. Not for the people around them. Perfectionism can make some people forget being happy and at peace. Can make it impossible for some people to be an imperfect person in an imperfect world.
So … accept that many of us are perfectionists, accept that all these perfectionists still fail one way or another at a certain day or a certain point, accept that the perfect high end audio system will never exist, and also accept that even how important this all is for you, it is insignificant for many, many people, even if they love music. Be happy!